Protecting the Unity of Your Marriage

Why Godly Couples Must Guard Their Covenant from Division and Outside Influence

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Shakay Publishing February 25, 2026

Marriage isn’t just a relationship - it’s a ministry. It’s one of the clearest places God displays love, order, forgiveness, and covenant. And if we’re building GODLY marriages, we have to build them on Kingdom principles, not culture, not emotions, and definitely not outside opinions.

Jesus said something that applies powerfully to marriage:

“Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house

divided against itself will not stand.”

Matthew 12:25

Now, in context, Jesus was confronting self-righteous people who were judging Him wrongly. But the principle still stands: DIVISION DESTROYS, and the enemy doesn’t always attack with chaos - sometimes he attacks with little fractures: pride, passive-aggression, silent treatment, “I’ll show you,” and letting other people’s voices get too loud.

Because here’s the truth: people will have opinions about your marriage. Some will judge your spouse. Some will judge how you lead, submit, spend, parent, worship, dress, work - all of it. And some people will smile in your face while secretly hoping you don’t make it.

So you have to decide: Will we be a united front, or will we give outsiders a front-row seat to our disagreements?

Let me make it practical,

If you had a disagreement an hour before an event you’re attending - a family function, church, a dinner, a gathering - you may not feel “perfect,” but you should still protect your covenant. Don’t walk in with cold shoulders, eye-rolls, or tension so loud it’s speaking for you. Because when that energy spills over, it becomes an invitation for mess, opinions, and interference.

Godly marriages learn this:

We handle it at home, and we heal it in prayer.

4 Pointers to Apply Matthew 12:25 to Your Marriage

1) Stop Giving Everyone Access to Your Covenant

There is not a single person who needs all the details of your marriage. Privacy isn’t secrecy - it’s protection. Some things are meant to be covered, prayed through, and worked out together.

2) Take Your Pain to God Before You Take It to People

When things feel off, don’t run to a group chat first - run to the Father first. Prayer realigns your heart before you speak from hurt. Say, “Lord, show me, me. Heal us. Guard our unity.”

3) Never Smear Your Spouse’s Name. EVER

When you’re angry, it’s tempting to vent and expose. But if you dishonor your spouse publicly, you’re weakening your own house. You can’t build unity with the same mouth you use to tear them down.

4) Disagree in Private - Present United in Public

This doesn’t mean you fake it. It means you don’t perform your conflict for an audience. Protect your spouse’s dignity. Protect your home’s image. Then go back and address the issue with maturity, humility, and love.

Because a house divided won’t stand… but a house submitted to God becomes strong, steady, and covered.

So today, make this your Marriage Declaration:

“We are on the same team. We fight for unity. We handle our business in love, and we build our home on God.”

REMEMBER….It Could All Be So Simple